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Communication and Changing Your Mindset

Older theories about intelligence dictate to us that we are born a “certain way.” We have certain traits that others do not possess, others have certain traits that we do not possess, and that is that. There is no room for growth or expansion. Our intelligence is as it always was and there is no room for improvement.

However, today, we know better. We know that we have the ability to change our mindset and, therefore, improve our capacity for learning in leaps and bounds. No longer is the status quo necessary. We can grow and strive to achieve more academically and, therefore, in life.

Choose Your Words Carefully

Each one of us go through our days speaking our mind, saying things without giving it much thought and sometimes even holding things in and not speaking up for ourselves only to berate ourselves later on for doing so. If you take a moment to recognize and record the words you use daily, you may come to realize that the words you choose might directly relate to the mindset you have.

What is a Mindset?

A mindset is the mental attitude you adopt which dictates how you will or will not perceive, react and respond to situations. Why is it important? Your mindset can and will determine your life from academics to career and beyond.

Why is it Important to Communicate Effectively?

The way you interpret your situation communicates to your brain. When it comes to intelligence, you may have a long-standing belief that you are either one way or another. For example, you may feel that you are average and are not questioning that old, limiting, and long-standing belief. It is important to communicate effectively by choosing the thoughts that will change the outcome.

For example, there have been many firsts in your life. You had to allow your first child get on the bus to go to kindergarten without you there. The next child it was a little easier and by the third child, if you had one, this task was not as big of a deal as the first time you had to face it.

By communicating to yourself that you can and will get through the many things that life sends your way, you are able to meet and face more and more challenges along the way. More importantly, you get to do it with ease and grace; as long as you communicate to yourself that, you can and are able to do so.

Communication is so much more than the words you speak to yourself; it’s also the thoughts you think. When you challenge yourself and achieve, you reset the communication bar. You allow yourself to see that not only can you achieve more by learning new things and taking on more challenges, but you also get to see that you can take on a growth mindset instead of a limiting one.

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How to Make Important Changes in Your Life

One thing you can depend on in life is that there will be change. Change, although usually seen as stressful, can actually help you get over some hurdles and move ahead with your life. Yet, instituting change can be quite challenging. How can you go about bringing a much-desired change to your life?

Use these strategies when you wish to change your life:

  1. Ensure you have a clear understanding of what you’d like to change about your life. Is it your job? Initiating or ending a relationship? Moving to a place that fits you better? Write down in a sentence or two what change you seek. Be specific.
  2. Know why you want the change. Being aware of your reasons for change will deepen your understanding of yourself and what you wish for your future. It can also help you tweak what it is you truly wish to accomplish. Having clarity now pays off later.
  3. Explore realistic options for how to bring on the change. What do you need to do to make it happen?

* Making a desired change often involves a step-by-step process rather than one big “jump.”

  1. Focus on making one change at a time. Concentrate your energies on only one task. This will increase your chances of being successful. When you see that you can achieve one change, you’ll gain confidence in making other changes.
  2. Find your confidence. When was the last time you did something you were really proud of? Gather your self-assurance and ignite your efforts to begin making changes.
  3. Use positive self-talk. Tell yourself that you know you can create the life you want – one step at a time.
  4. Discuss your wishes with your significant other. It’s important that you discuss your desired changes with your partner and that both of you devise an agreeable plan to move forward together.
  5. Refuse to let anyone or anything stop you. When it comes to making an important life change, those around you might disagree with your decision to alter your life.

* Listen carefully to the opinions of your loved ones. Then, proceed ahead on your well-planned course, taking their ideas into consideration if you found them useful.

  1. Garner support. Surround yourself with supportive people who will provide encouragement to you in your quest for change. Join a support group or club with members who are interested in the change you’re working on. Group support can be incredibly powerful.
  2. Find a great mentor. When you consult with others who have already achieved what you’re hoping to accomplish, it will galvanize you in your efforts to change. It’s wonderful to have direct contact with someone who’s done what you’re striving to do.

For the fastest results, communicate with your mentor by e-mail or telephone.

Making changes in life can be taxing, yet very rewarding. When you discover that you can create the life you deserve by making some adjustments here and there, you can move closer toward your goals in life with greater passion and confidence.

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10 Ways Gratitude Enhances Your Life

Abundance surrounds you in many ways. Regardless of where you are in your in life, there are many things that gratify you. What are you thankful for?

10 Ways Gratitude Enhances Your Life
1. You’ll be more enthusiastic. Research shows that when subjects recorded what they were thankful for in a journal on a regular basis, they reported having a larger sense of enthusiasm for their life than those who didn’t write about their gratitude. Acknowledge your gratitude. You’ll be glad you did!

2. You’ll feel more determined to achieve your goals. When you take notice of the good things you have, you’re more likely to put your nose to the grindstone and keep working for whatever else you desire.

3. Your level of optimism will soar. According to several studies, those who documented what they were thankful for were much more positive about how their life was going and how it would proceed. Being optimistic will fuel your passion to construct the life you deserve.

4. Energy levels increase. If you have gratitude, you’ll have more energy to create the life you desire. Being aware of what you’re thankful for galvanizes your efforts to discover all that your life can be.

5. You’ll pay more attention. Being thankful ensures you’ll be more alert and aware of how your life is going, what you’re doing, and how you can continue to build the life you seek.

6. Levels of stress drop. As you live a life of gratitude, things that used to stress you out will lose their power. Instead, you’ll be entrenched in the wonderful world you’re living in.

7. You’ll feel more content with life. Those who consciously have gratitude experience reduced levels of depression.

8. You’ll exercise more. Those who show a sense of thankfulness had higher reports of exercising more than those who weren’t keeping a gratitude journal.

9. Providing aid to others will come easier to you. When you notice all the positive things surrounding you, you’ll reach out to help others more often. When your soul is flooded with light and positivity, you’ll feel more like being there for others.

10. You’ll discover the life you truly want. As unusual as it may sound, the research about gratitude indicates that those who have thankfulness in their hearts are more likely to achieve their goals. As your thankfulness grows, your dream life is built.
Open your eyes to the bounties that grace your world. When you do, you’ll live a more fulfilling life. Allow yourself to feel passion about the color of the fall leaves, the peacefulness of the snow falling, or the beauty of the blue sky. Notice the feel of a warm coat against your skin or the love in your child’s hug. Maybe you’re even grateful for that first cup of morning coffee.
Get started today on your own gratitude journal. Write about everything that you’re grateful for. As you begin to give thanks, you’ll find your dreams coming true.

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Changing the Way You Think about Eating

Maintaining a healthy bodyweight involves both your body and mind. To keep pounds off, you may need to change the way you think. Use these suggestions to develop your long-term game plan for sustainable weight loss.

Changing the Way You Think about Eating

  1. Choose foods you like. With so many nutritious foods to choose from, there are bound to be plenty that appeal to you. If lima beans make you want to gag, try chick peas instead.
  2. Eat a balanced diet. You may be able to survive for a few days on grapefruit and red onions. On the other hand, you’ll need to cover every food group when you’re planning for the years ahead.
  3. Know your caloric needs. Many factors determine how much food you need. Calculate the target calories for yourself based on your height, weight, age, and metabolism.
  4. Evaluate the impact of weight fluctuations. You’ll be less tempted to get sidetracked by crash diets when you understand what they do to your body. Dramatic weight changes can increase your body fat and weaken your bones.

Changing the Way You Think about Exercise

  1. Befriend your body. Appreciate your body regardless of your current size. Be grateful for all it does for you. You’ll take more pleasure in being active and treating yourself well.
  2. Enjoy your workouts. Select physical activities that you’ll look forward to doing. Maybe you’d enjoy getting together with friends after work to shoot hoops. Maybe your idea of a good time is volleyball on the beach.
  3. Plan for all seasons. Summer heat and winter storms sabotage many workout schedules. Plan alternatives you can turn to when the weather changes. Flexibility will also see you through other obstacles, such as frequent travel or illnesses.
  4. Avoid injuries. Overtraining and accidents derail exercise programs too. Get adequate rest and build up the intensity of your workouts gradually.

Changing the Way You Think about Living

  1. Consider your future self. It seems harmless to slack off in the short-term, but the consequences add up. Multiply two hours a day of snacking and watching TV by 365 days in a year. Imagine how much better you’d feel if you spent that time walking and preparing salads.
  2. Manage stress. Keeping stress under control will enhance your sleep and reduce emotional eating. This will likely help you stay trim. Develop relaxation practices that work for you, such as meditation or listening to instrumental music.
  3. Form new habits. Eating green vegetables and running every morning become a snap when you make such actions automatic. About three weeks is usually all it takes to turn a positive intention into a reflex.
  4. Seek support. We can all accomplish more when we work together. Invite your family and friends to join you in shaping up. Reach out to the new member at your gym who may want to join you for a smoothie after yoga class.
  5. Break down big tasks. Losing a large amount of weight can seem overwhelming until you segment your goals into weekly or monthly units. Talk with your doctor about the best approach for your individual needs.
  6. Be mindful. Living mindfully transforms all of our experiences. You’ll see that you can be happy and peaceful doing leg lifts and eating Brussel sprouts. You’ll be content with what you’re doing now, instead of getting lost in the past or future.

Adopting a positive attitude will help you to eat less and exercise more for the rest of your life. Think about how you can go the distance and enjoy staying in tip top shape.

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The Top 10 Life Changes You Can Experience by Meditating

Though meditation has been around for thousands of years, it’s only now that meditation is becoming mainstream in the western world. Even the medical community is singing the praises of meditation and the benefits. Meditation is a simple and free application that can enhance your life in many ways. If you’ve considered meditation but decided against it, now is the time to reconsider.

Meditation can enhance your life in many ways:

  1. Meditation can increase self-confidence. Meditation can help to remove self-doubt and self-criticism. You will become more accepting of your shortcomings. When you are able to accept yourself, you believe that others will accept you, too.
  2. Meditation reduces stress and anxiety. During meditation, you focus on something to the exclusion of all other thoughts. It’s not possible to feel stressed about your finances or your love life when 100% of your attention is focused on something else. You develop the ability to regulate and moderate your emotions through meditation.
  3. Meditation provides a method for learning about yourself. Most of us possess a certain amount of blindness when it comes to our thoughts, behaviors, and tendencies. Meditation encourages self-examination and detachment.
  4. Meditation can help you to see the truth. Meditation seeks to remove all of your preconceived ideas and put your emotions on the back burner. Without the influence of your beliefs and emotions, it’s much easier to catch a glimpse of reality. Your ability to make effective and intelligent decisions will grow.
  5. Meditation gives your brain a rest. Your brain is constantly working. There’s not one moment of the day your brain isn’t running at full speed. Even while you’re dreaming, your brain is busy creating your dreams.

When you become an effective meditator, your brain finally gets a chance to rest. You’ll be surprised how good just five minutes of meditation can feel. Many experienced meditators find that one minute of meditation per hour is very beneficial.

  1. Meditation can improve concentration. Most forms of meditation require focusing on a thought or object, commonly your breath. All of this concentration practice will bleed over into other parts of your life. You become good at what you practice.
  2. Meditation can make you more accepting of others. When you’re more able to see your own shortcomings compassionately, you’ll extend that same compassion to others. What would happen if everyone took the time to meditate?
  3. Meditation can prolong your life. Meditation has been shown to slow the aging process, both physical and mental. It’s possible this could increase longevity. At the very least, you’ll feel, look, and think better!
  4. Meditation can boost your level of creativity. By eliminating your negative thoughts and beliefs, you’ll have greater access to your creative abilities. Lower levels of stress also increase the opportunity to put your mind to good use. You might be a lot more creative than you’ve given yourself credit for in the past!
  5. Meditation can enhance your health. In a 2008 study, 40 of 60 patients were able to eliminate the need to take blood pressure medication after learning to meditate. Meditation has also been shown to enhance the function of the immune system. Consider that one of the signs of aging is a decrease in immune function.

Meditation is one of the most powerful self-development tools available. A short meditation session each day can provide profound results. The benefits aren’t limited to your psychology. Studies have demonstrated physical benefits, too. Consider adding meditation to your daily routine for 30 days and see the results for yourself.

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Comparing Yourself to Other People

If you are human, you have done it. You compare yourself to other people. The good news is that people out there compare themselves to you and the not-so-good news is that you do it, as well. While neither is benefit of the other, it is simply part of human nature. It’s how we grow, it’s how we strive, but sometimes, unfortunately, it’s sometimes an excuse to give up, as well.

A Fixed Mindset

If we don’t have something to compare ourselves to, you might reason, then how will we learn to achieve and grow? Sometimes, when we compare ourselves to others, we have something to gauge our success and failure with and, therefore, a measure of where we can do better and achieve more.

However, unfortunately, for those with a fixed mindset, this does not occur at all. There is actually a reverse method of thinking. That reverse method tells us, since we are not as good as the other person, we might as well just quit. That doesn’t work in the world of intelligence, however. It is ineffective, at best.

Do you ever find yourself viewing someone else’s success as only a way to make yourself look bad? If so, you are not alone in this thought process. For some, the success of others equates to highlight their own failures. Excuses are made such as the other party being luckier or having it easy. Another excuse is to say everything just comes easily to that person or, even worse, use their success to highlight some other unrelated shortcoming. What if you could re-train your brain to adopt a mindset of growth?

Growth Mindset

On the opposite end of the spectrum is a growth mindset. You can give yourself the opportunity to change and grow over time as you learn to re-train your brain to a growth mindset. When you view someone else’s success as a way to strive harder, do more, and work harder, you re-train your brain to view this not as an excuse to stay status quo, but as a reason to thrive.

If you choose the thought patterns that intelligence can be developed and you can most certainly train your brain to reach higher heights, you will see a radical change in your life. Once you get that your self-image has nothing to do with failing at something and that this failure is actually a path to higher learning, you will be at ease in your own skin.

Wouldn’t that be nice to be at ease in your own skin? If you change your mind, you can re-train your brain to view failure as a stepping-stone to new successes. You will begin to understand failure as a learning tool and not as a way to define your image.

So, the next time you want to compare yourself to someone else, stop and ask yourself if his/her success can highlight inspiration for you. Maybe he/she put a tremendous amount of effort into the realization of dreams and all that hard work paid off. This could be a learning tool for you rather than something viewed as an enemy.

Other people’s success could be a way and a means for you to learn, grow, and, most importantly, be inspired.

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How To Exercise Your Way to a Growth Mindset

In order to understand how to take on the practice of creating a growth mindset, first, take a look at the difference between the two mindsets; a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

A Fixed Mindset

A fixed mindset, especially in the area of academics, intelligence, and study dictates that it is what it is or that the status is fixed, unchangeable and with no room for growth or potential.

A Growth Mindset

A growth mindset takes on a different perspective. A growth mindset takes on challenges as a way to expand and grow. It also dictates that there is room for hard work, learning, and achieving.

How to Gain a Growth Mindset

Exercise Your Way to a Growth Mindset

You might be asking, “What does exercise have to do with gaining a growth mindset?” The answer is there is a different type of exercise you can do. It’s not the physical kind – it’s the mental kind.

When you exercise your brain, you give this muscle a chance to grow and expand over time. If you want to gain a growth mindset, you need to take on new, challenging things. Once your brain sees that it can overcome challenges, taking on more challenges becomes easier over time. Once your mind recognizes you are taking on something new, fear can become minimized and new things will be placed in the part of your brain compartmentalized as something not to be feared.

Work Hard

If you have a certain learning capacity and accept that this is your limit, then that will be your limit. However, on the other hand, if you work harder, take on more learning, and then work even harder, you will begin to notice a shift. You will begin to challenge your own status quo.

The harder you work the more results and rewards you will see. You will shift your mindset to understand that the more effort you put in, the more effort you will get out. It doesn’t have to stop at a certain static place. You can work hard, you can put in more effort, and you can achieve different results.

Stretch Yourself

Have you ever heard a point of view or a perception that was astonishing and bold? Do you sometimes see how other people set the bar a bit higher, try new things, and work harder? Just because you have to work harder, does not mean you cannot be more successful. Take some time to examine a certain area of your life, such as academically, and see if you can’t think outside the box, enter new territories, and achieve higher goals.

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Growth Mindset: The Key to Success in All Areas of Life

Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to skate right through their professional career while others seem to struggle endlessly? For some of us, corporate life just don’t seem to come as easily as it does to others. Or does it? Is it possible that intelligence is not necessarily left to the gene pool and there is something you can do about it?

The area of intelligence is measured in several ways – by the academic tests you take, by the grades you receive, and sometimes by a standardized test or an intelligence quotient test. As many people grew up, they adopted the beliefs of the adults around them; believing such things as “he is not as smart as his older brother,” or “she is not as academically inclined, but has musical talent.”

The idea or notion that you can only be either creative or academic is another potential “story” that you may have heard as a youngster. Maybe your big brother got the smart gene, and you got the creative gene. Decades ago, that explanation would suffice. Today, however, we know more and we know better.

In the world of personal development, it is known that your thoughts create your reality. When it comes to success in all areas of your life, there is a new knowledge. That knowledge is that mindset matters. If you can create a reality based on your thoughts, then you can create a life that is successful in all compartments of your life from intelligence to creativity based on the work you do with your mindset.

Changing Your Mind

When it comes to mindsets, there are two kinds – a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. Changing your mind may be viewed as a negative; however, such is not the case. Changing your mind does not mean:

  • You cannot make up your mind
  • You are indecisive
  • You are out of integrity and don’t do what you say you will
  • You are flighty
  •  You are unintelligent

Changing your mind, if you will, can assist you in creating a new life. You can change your mind in a positive way.

What Does Changing Your Mind Mean?

In the world of intelligence, learning, and academics, it means to have a new understanding. That understanding highlights an important psychological factor. When you take on something new, your brain records this new learning endeavour came about because you have expanded yourself, worked hard and learned something new. There is now a new connection for your brain to recall, which, over time, can actually make you smarter.

You have exercised your brain away from the thought that intelligence is static and that it is a growth process. The more you learn, the more you exercise your brain, the more you grow; therefore, the more you are capable of learning.

In the world of the everyday, have you ever noticed how one negative thing in your early morning routine (such as losing your car keys or spilling your coffee) has the power to set the tone of the entire rest of your day? Does your day continue to spiral downward into a negative cyclone of mishaps and misfortunes the more you focus on that one thing which started your day off poorly?

The next time that happens, take a moment to change your mind. It takes a challenge and plenty of practice, but it is so worth every minute of effort. Exercise your brain. Just like anything else, practice makes perfection. Take a moment to recognize that you are not the only one that things like this happen to. Hundreds of thousands of people around the globe have lost their car keys and spilled their coffee. They just don’t let it ruin the rest of their day. Moreover, they don’t let it rule the rest of their day.

Change your mind. Maybe you needed to run late this particular day because you were going to meet your next big client or the love of your life on the train that day. Perhaps you needed to avoid a big accident. Change your mind and change your life.

The same goes for learning new things. With a growth mindset, you can train your brain to view learning new subjects as a positive experience rather than a negative one.

How to Change Your Mind in Order to Change Your Life

Take a Look at Your Own Points of View

Take some time to evaluate your own points of view. Don’t hold back; be completely honest with yourself. Do you have a more negative outlook on life? Do you even get annoyed in the company of others who take on a more positive attitude? Are you so set in your ways, you are unwilling to explore, learn, and re-create your life?

If, you’ve answered yes to any of these pertinent questions, then there is one more question to ask. Do you wish to take responsibility for using your mindset and do the work to create the most growth you could ever have imagined or hoped for in all areas of your life? Once you have examined your views and thought patterns and beliefs in total honesty, you are ready to move on to the next step.

  • Is a challenge simply an excuse to quit?
  • Is a roadblock a way to host a pity party?
  • Do you procrastinate in order to turn away from perfectionism?
  • When someone else experiences success, do you feel less than?
  • Do you view a challenge as something fearful?

Are You Willing to be Open to Something New?

What if you could take a good hard look at those questions and re-create them to show up as positives? Are you willing to be open to explore new possibilities? Transformation is yours if you are willing to do the work and walk the walk. With practice, any new way of being becomes a habit. It’s your choice whether you want to have a habit of positive growth or negative decline.

Let’s look at how this could potentially work.

A Challenge is a Form of Growth and not an Excuse to Quit

When faced with a challenge, it is easy to spend time and energy focusing on the challenge itself. The thoughts you think, such as it being too hard or why does this happen to me (also known as “woe is me” syndrome) can easily distract your energy from the task at hand. What would happen if you viewed your challenge as a way to grow and expand?

What if that new responsibility led to more money, a higher position, or a transfer with a promotion? This is how to view your situation from a growth mindset point of view.

Is a Roadblock a Chance to Host a Pity Party?

If you have a deep subconscious belief that “everything bad” happens to you, then the chances are high that you invite roadblocks into your life. Sometimes it’s easier to host a pity party than to come up with creative and intelligent resources to solve the problem at hand. What would happen if you viewed a roadblock as an opportunity to use your creativity go around it or under it?

In a growth mindset, this is what you would take on – viewing a roadblock as a way to stretch, grow, and improve rather than something to feel sorry for yourself about and an excuse to quit.

Do You Use Procrastination as a Way to Avoid Perfectionism?

Does the thought of not being good enough haunt you, so you procrastinate? What would happen if you were to approach a project or a challenge as an opportunity to expand your horizons or to re-create yourself as a master at the task at hand? A growth mindset will offer you the opportunity to change your perception, face the task head-on, and take it on with all the vim and vigour you could ever desire.

When Someone Else Experiences Success, Do You Feel Less Than?

If someone else experiences success, you have a choice. Either you can be happy for them and inspired by them, making you want to strive higher, or you can feel resentful or jealous. Many people choose to allow the success of others make them feel bad about themselves. However, it does not have to be that way.

Individuals with a growth mindset hold the belief that intelligence can be learned and developed and it is not just for the elite few. It is available to anyone with a desire to improve. The brain is trainable.

Do You View a Challenge as Fearful?

When faced with a challenge do you become overwhelmed and debilitated by fear or do you grasp on tight and face it head on? Your mindset will determine how you handle a challenge and ultimately what the outcome of that challenge will be, as well.

People with a growth mindset know that a challenge is way of doing things differently, thinking smarter and working harder.

Focus on the Process and not on the Praise

As a parent, are you tempted to praise your child for every success both big and small? If you look at a new way of fostering a growth mindset, you will discover that praising the process is more effective. When your child figures something out and does a job well done, encourage and praise how, when and where they figured it out rather than the end goal itself. This encourages learning and growing and teaches children how to come up with creative and intelligent solutions rather than focusing only on the end goal.

Using Constructive Criticism

Criticism of any kind is thought of in a fixed mindset way, as though it is negative. However, constructive criticism offers a new model and method of teaching by showing what doesn’t work and questioning what will work. By offering constructive criticism, it gives them the opportunity to figure out how to fix something in a positive light.

Steps to Developing a Growth Mindset

  • Learn
  • Work Hard
  • Face Setbacks

Learning

In a fixed mindset point of view, you will want to learn as much as you can for the sake of looking good. Being intelligent means that you look good and others will be impressed by your intelligence. However, on the other hand, a growth mindset, will curiously and intriguingly inquire, ask questions, and want to learn more.

With a growth mindset, you will want to learn and will be focused on learning rather than perfecting the grade. A fixed mindset might view the A as the end of learning; that the ultimate goal has been reached. A growth mindset has no problem taking on more learning in exchange for the perfect grade.

Hard Work

In a fixed mindset, it is easy to fall into the trap of believing that if you have to work hard, you are not actually smart. A growth mindset will highlight that hard work and effort equate being the best you can be at something. A growth mindset will re-train your brain to connect to the thought process that hard work and lots of effort will equate to success. The more hard work you do, the more effort you put into something, the more success you’ll attain.

The Ability to Face Setbacks

In a fixed mindset, you might view a setback as an easy way to make an excuse, run the other way, or blame someone or something else. In a growth mindset, you will view a setback as a way to work harder, to spend more time studying, or to take on more organized skills and practices. For example, you may not be so inclined to procrastinate and cram if you get a poor grade rather than simply blaming it on not being as smart as everyone else or a good student.

Now that you see a few differences between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset, you will understand that having a growth mindset is an achievable goal. If you want to opt in for a growth mindset, remember some important tips:

  • Work hard
  • Remember to take on perseverance even in struggle
  • Take on tasks that are more difficult so that you can re-train your brain to succeed
  • Keep your mind set on learning new things and continuing to do so in an effort to re-set your brain
  • Highlight what strategies for learning worked for you
  • Be honest about what strategies for learning did not work for you.

If you are an adult, that’s great news. You can take on this advice and these practices and work hard to create a growth mindset. If you are a parent or a teacher, that’s even better. You get the opportunity to help grow and shape a child’s mind.

What would your child’s future look like if you encouraged them to work hard rather than using a label? What if working hard was rewarding and fun and your child wanted to do more and more over the course of his/her life?

Think about the possibilities. Learning can be fun and rewarding. As an adult, your child can have a greater earning potential, a possibly better lifestyle and also go on to teach their children the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

With a growth mindset, the possibilities are unlimited.

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Affirmation: My body deserves to be cared for

This is a soulful eating affirmation. Say it out loud

I treat my body like a treasure. It is my prized possession. My body deserves to be taken care of. Since my body drives every activity I do, I give it my full attention.

My body gets me out of bed each morning. It is important that it functions well so I can meet my physical obligations.

I take time to exercise my body, which keeps it from breaking down.

What I put into my mouth determines how well my inner body functions. I avoid giving into cravings for unhealthy foods because they dull my mind and put pressure on my organs.

I follow a balanced eating regimen to ensure I get the necessary nutrients. Soulful Eating ensures my mind is sharp and able to take on the day’s challenges.

 I take good care of my mind by monitoring my thoughts. I watch appropriate programming on television to encourage positive living. I also engage in healthy conversations with friends and co-workers.

I also exercise my mind every chance I get. When I play games or do puzzles, I get a good mental workout.

Today, I am committed to living a good life. I know that it starts by having a healthy body inside and out. My life’s mission is to keep my body as happy and healthy as possible.

Self-Reflection Questions:

  1. How do I get back on track when I fall off the healthy wagon?
  2. When have outside commitments interfered with my goal of a healthy lifestyle?
  3. In what ways do I cope with changing responsibilities?
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Are Attachments Limiting Your Success?

If you’re not living soulfully (the life of your dreams), you have blocks or attachments that are standing in your way. Every negative emotion you feel is the result of one or more attachments. Letting go of your attachments is the one way to free yourself and enjoy unlimited success.

Several attachments impede progress and success:

  1. The need to be comfortable is the greatest obstacle to success. It’s human nature to seek out comfort. There are few, if any, greater drives than the desire to be comfortable. But success lies on the other side of comfort. Comfort comes from the familiar, but the familiar doesn’t bring change.

Embrace discomfort. Understand that your uncomfortable feelings mean you’re doing something new. New actions bring new results. Those new results might be exactly what you’re looking for.

  1. The need to be right is a close second. You’re wrong about many things. However, if you feel the need to be correct, there’s no room for the truth. Instead of wanting to prove you’re right, seek the truth. Spend your time building a more accurate map of your world rather than trying to force your current map on reality.
  2. Attachment to your identity is another obstacle. Do you see yourself as an ineloquent person? If so, you’ll never become a great orator. Do you believe you’re naturally a heavy person? A lean, healthy body will always be out of reach.

It’s very challenging to create a reality that clashes with your identity. Why are you attached to your opinion of yourself? Let it go and see how great you can become. You have nothing to lose.

  1. Are you attached to your habits? Your life is the ultimate expression of your habits. Our lives get a little better or a little worse each day. Over several years, your habits dictate the quality of your life. If you can’t give up your current habits, you’re stuck.

Many success experts believe that the development of new, effective habits is the cornerstone of success. Let go of your old habits and make room for the new.

It might be necessary to develop habits like learning each day, networking, exercising, or reviewing your goals regularly to reach a new level of success.

Habits are another way we comfort ourselves. It’s uncomfortable to break old habits and to create new habits.

  1. Attachment to places and people can also limit your success. Many of the best opportunities can be in other locations. Are you attached to your hometown, state, or even country? The world is a big place. The best opportunity for you might not be within 25 miles of your front door.

We often become attached to places because of the people there. It’s not easy to leave friends and family to attain success.

The people in our lives are also habits. Think of the most successful people you know. Describe the people they spend time with on a regular basis. Compare that to the people in your social circle. Can you see a difference? Moving ahead often means letting go of certain people.

Attachment is limiting. If success isn’t coming quickly enough, your attachments are part of the challenge. Examine your tendencies and determine which are impeding your progress.

Many attachments are pleasurable in the short-term, but painful in the long-term. Release your attachments and enjoy greater success.

Garth

PS if you are struggling to release an attachment, please book in a session with me and I’ll help you overcome through them.